We are pleased to introduce you to our son, Henry Mugisha Dean Ordelheide “Hank”. His middle name, Mugisha, means “blessing” and we couldn’t think of a more fitting name for our littlest boy.
Hank, Melissa & Rosie will be arriving at Denver International Airport on Thursday, March 28 at 5:00 pm. If you’re in Denver and you’d like to celebrate his arrival and his joining our family we would love to see you there!
We’re settling into life in Ug*nda. We truly love being here. It’s a beautiful country and it’s begun to have familiarities and soul-nurturing qualities. I’m sitting outside on the patio watching my two littlest eat breakfast with a view of Lake Victoria. We’re enjoying this time of nurturing and healing-hearts. We pray that God gives us the wisdom to parent our boy’s grieving heart.
We thought we’d share some things we have learned about our boy so far.
- He has perfect teeth, you know the kind that makes Hollywood stars swoon.
- He loves to give big, open-mouth kisses and he runs to us for hugs.
- He sleeps for 12+ hours at night, praise the Lord!
- He does not like applesauce. We brought pouches of applesauce for snacks and after one taste he wrinkled his nose, and gave a look of disgust.
- He loves to drink water, lots of water!
- When he wakes up in the morning he just lays in his bed and waits for us to come, no crying, no tears, no calling out.
- He’s a slow and thoughtful eater.
- He does not know how to hold your hand or finger. But we will teach him!
- He is ticklish. It’s a joy to hear him giggle.
- 10. He loves his big sister Rosie. They have a cute relationship forming. She’s jumped right into her role as big sister and loves to play games with him and comfort him. I was changing his diaper earlier and he was fussing. She ran over to his head, snuggled in close and said, “shh, it’s oh-tay baby!” Rosie has had a beautiful example of what a big sister is.
You’ll frequently hear me say, “God’s timing is perfect! He is never a minute late.” And while I genuinely believe this, there have definitely been times on our adoption journey when I have wondered why we had to wait. Sometimes, later on down the road, the answer will come, but other times I just don’t know.
Today we received a court date, for March 5. We are thrilled that it is now less than one month away, yet we wished it would be mid-February while John was already in country. Someday I may have the answer, but I may not, and I’m okay with that.
I will say that I know today was the day we were supposed to hear our court date, for a variety of reasons. The first being that today is the day that my friend Julie is donating 50% of her sales from her company, Kanga-Care, to our adoption. Wow! Then, this morning, after hearing our court date, I checked the mail at 10:00 am. Why? Because I’m a crazed adoptive mama! Adoptive mamas check the mail about 10 times a day. Our mail NEVER comes before 3:00pm, NEVER! Yet, today, when I checked, there it was. In the mail was a very generous gift to our adoption and the last document we needed to travel. Today was the day God intended and I am rejoicing in that. We serve a God who is never a minute late and that is worth celebrating!
You know the phrase, when it rains it pours? That’s what it feels like around here. On Thursday, the day before John left, we had a sewer issue that required most of John’s day to fix. The next day, after dropping him at the airport, I returned home to find our heat was not working. One amazing father-in-law and several hours later it was back working.
Today my sweet middle boy, Trip, fell while running on the asphalt at school drop off. It was compounded by the fact that he was running with his hands in his coat pockets. I scooped him up and set him in my lap, while sweet Rosie girl rubbed his legs. Once I wiped the blood off his forehead I saw a lovely puncture wound. We spent our morning in the emergency department getting a suture & glue. So thankful for my Dad who came over and sat with Rosie in the waiting room while I sat with Trip. My poor mommy heart broke as I swaddled him in a sheet to contain his arms and then held him down as the doctor sutured & glued his head.
On the way home from the hospital I received a message from our agency that said we likely won’t have a court date while John is there. And through it all, I feel peace! I know who writes the plan for my life and I have complete trust in his timing. HIS timing is perfect, never a minute late. So when it rains… I will rest in Jesus and his perfect timing.
On another note, I shared a condensed version of our family’s journey over the last couple of years over here. The woman, Julie, who started and owns this company has become a friend over the last several years. I am in awe of her giving spirit. Whenever I run into her office she takes the time to talk and find out how we’re doing. I can’t say thank you enough!
And in case you missed it I shared a couple additional ways to continue to support our adoption in this post.
What a week it’s been. John left on Friday for Ug*nda to film a documentary for a mission team. We’re hoping we hear soon that we have a court date at the same time, but we know that God’s timing is perfect, never a minute late. It also gives us some time to find the remaining funds we need for travel. It’s hard to say exactly how much we’ll need because travel costs vary and it depends on if John has to go back later. At this point, my best estimate says we still need between $4000-$6000. You all have been so giving we are in awe of your willingness to share and give to help us bring our son home.
We have a couple ways that you can support us right now:
You can donate via paypal.
You can shop an online Scentsy party.
Soon we’re going to have some fantastic shirts to sell. I’m hoping we have the shirts available this week, so keep checking back. Be sure to join our “email subscription” to get new posts from the blog sent to you. You can do that on the right hand side. Then when we add the shirts you’ll be notified. Trust me, you want to come back and see them. My sister-in-law and brothers were a huge help on these!
Here is a little sneak peek of a couple of the designs:
I’ll leave you with this picture. At our airport there is a little window where you can see the passengers headed down the stairs to the trains, after security. This was our last glimpse of Daddy and the kids blew him kisses and I cried.
An updated family portrait, courtesy of E, our oldest daughter.
The past couple of weeks have been an amazing journey in and of themselves. Honestly when we gave up our pride and asked for help in what we knew God was calling us to do; we were pretty skeptical. In fact we were worried that we may not even be able to recover the actual cost of the iPad that we were raffling off. Oh we of little faith! God has been showing us each and every day with each and every gift that he is real. The love that has been shown us has changed our lives forever. It is also going to change a little boy’s life. A little boy who has had no family. No mommy to tuck him in at night and say “I love you”, no daddy to wrestle him and give him snuggles before bed, and no sisters or brother to draw pictures of his family with.
We cannot say thank you enough.
The winner of the iPad mini was drawn at random and has been notified.
In the next week, or so, we’ll have a couple more opportunities to “shop” to support our adoption. More on that later!
I read this today, “Do you ever pray to God for help but then when a friend offers help you turn it down?” This has been profoundly true for John and I. It’s often easier to just do it ourselves, we won’t be “indebted” to anyone else and it will be done in our time and our way. This adoption and the speed with which it came upon us left us no choice but to ask for help. Trust me when I say that if we could have sold something else or we could have found that money elsewhere and on our own we would have. We knew when we said yes to this boy that we also said yes to follow God’s plan, including where the funds would come from. God has made it abundantly clear that his plan, this time, was you! It’s been such a learning experience for us to put our pride aside and accept your gifts and your generosity. When we cried out to God for help he sent it in the form of many friends and family. Thank you!
At this point you have blessed us beyond our wildest dreams. We are within $4,000 – $6,000 of being FULLY FUNDED, including agency fees & travel. AMAZING! There are 38 hours left in our iPad mini giveaway. Please participate and share! We believe that God has this!